It's a Tuesday afternoon. You're on your lunch break, standing in line at the pharmacy. You've got your parent's insurance card, a list of three prescriptions, and a work meeting in 45 minutes.
Nobody at your job knows you're here. Your friends think you're eating lunch.
You hand the card across the counter and try to remember which of the three meds is the new one the doctor just added.
This is your life right now — and almost nobody is talking about it.
Here's something most people don't know: of the estimated 48 million family caregivers in the United States, roughly 14 million are under the age of 24. About one in four family caregivers is between 18 and 36 years old.
You probably don't call yourself a caregiver. Most people your age don't. You say you're "helping out" or "checking in on Mom" or "just handling some stuff for Dad." That's exactly the problem — because when you don't name what you're doing, you don't get any support for it.
72%
of Gen Z adults expect to provide care for a parent
14M
family caregivers in the U.S. are under age 24
62%
of Gen Z caregivers say it's already affecting their job performance
A recent national survey found that 62% of Gen Z caregivers say it's already affecting their job performance. Not someday. Now.
Older caregivers have hard days too. But they usually have a few things you don't: decades of navigating difficult conversations, experience managing stress, some sense of who they are outside of family.
When you're 22 or 25, you're still figuring all of that out. And caregiving can interrupt the whole process.
Psychologists call it role engulfment — when caregiving crowds out everything else.
Your career identity, your social life, your sense of what your future looks like. All of it takes a back seat to appointments, medications, and being the one who answers the phone.
Young adult caregivers in research studies describe feeling "both too young and too old." Too old to relate to friends who are planning spring break. Too young to be seen as a real caregiver by the systems and services that might help.
17 hrs
per week spent on care duties — over 880 hours a year
$370
average out-of-pocket costs per month — nearly $4,500/year
↓
statistically more likely to stay lower-income throughout their lives
None of this is said to scare you. It's said so you understand: what you're carrying is real, and it has real consequences. You deserve to take it seriously.
There's a growing group of young adults in a particularly difficult situation: caring for a parent in their 40s or 50s who has been diagnosed with early-onset dementia.
If that's you, you may be experiencing something that doesn't have a simple name.
You're grieving someone who is still there. You're watching the person who was supposed to be a stable anchor during your adult years slowly change — while simultaneously becoming one of the financial and emotional anchors for your household.
Research shows that young adults caring for a parent with early-onset dementia take on task levels comparable to those caring for much older patients, but with almost none of the support infrastructure built for that situation.
This kind of grief doesn't look like grief to outsiders. It looks like exhaustion. It looks like checking your phone a lot. It looks like leaving parties early.
It's okay to name it for what it is.
These are the things that come up again and again when young caregivers talk honestly about what this experience is really like.
You can love your parent deeply and also feel resentment that your siblings aren't showing up. You can be proud of yourself for handling hard things and also be angry that this is your situation. These feelings don't cancel each other out.
When your friends are talking about their weekend or complaining about something minor, there will be moments where you feel like you're on a different planet. That isolation is real, and it can sneak up on you. It doesn't mean something is wrong with you — it means you're carrying something they're not.
Most young caregivers feel guilty for wanting their own life. For wanting to go out, travel, be in a relationship, build something. That guilt is understandable, and it's also not a signal that you're doing something wrong. Wanting your own life doesn't make you a bad child.
Gen Z is already 80% more likely than older generations to report anxiety or depression. Add caregiving on top of that — especially without support — and the weight compounds. During COVID, young adult caregivers ages 18–24 were nine times more likely than their non-caregiving peers to have considered suicide. That statistic exists not to shock you, but to say: if you're struggling, it is not an overreaction, and you are not alone.
You don't need a five-year plan right now. You need a few small, concrete moves.
This sounds small, and it changes everything. When you identify as a caregiver, you become eligible for support programs, you give yourself permission to ask for help, and you start to understand your situation more clearly. "I'm just helping Mom" keeps you isolated. "I'm a family caregiver" opens doors.
Many companies have Employee Assistance Programs (EAPs) that include elder care resources, counseling, and referrals. You don't have to overshare. A simple conversation with HR — "I'm dealing with a family caregiving situation and want to know what resources are available" — can surface support you didn't know existed.
If you're the only one stepping up, that probably feels normal by now — but it isn't sustainable. You don't need to have one big confrontation. Start with one conversation. "I can cover Thursday appointments, but I need someone else to handle Saturdays." Specific, reasonable, and said out loud.
This doesn't have to be formal therapy (though that's valid too — 37% of Gen Z is already in it). It can be an online community. A few places that actually understand your situation:
You don't have to choose between caregiving and a future. But you do need to be intentional. Block time for one career-building activity each week, even if it's 30 minutes. Don't let the default become "everything else first, me last."
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Here's the truth: what you are doing is one of the most demanding things a person can do, at one of the most demanding times of life to do it.
You are building your adult self while simultaneously holding up someone else. You are learning how to navigate medical systems, family dynamics, financial stress, and your own future — all at the same time.
That deserves to be named. It deserves to be supported.
You are a caregiver. And there are more people who look like you than you know.
One step you can take in the next 48 hours:
Text or call 211 to find out what local caregiving resources exist in your area. It takes five minutes, and you might be surprised what's available.
At Helping Mom, we believe caregiving doesn't have an age limit — and neither does the need for support. If this article resonated with you, share it with someone who needs to hear it.
Sources: LogicMark National Survey (June 2026) | Carewell.com (Feb 2026) | STAT News (May 2024) | Active Minds (Oct 2025) | NPR (Dec 2024) | Family Caregiver Alliance | AECF Gen Z Mental Health Data